When itemizing the things I loved about him, it was both a straight up lie “he cares about me, he makes me laugh” and so forth, or it was about his potential, but additional extra, I had fallen in love with desires and targets. I dreamed of our future, our kids, their names. And ending issues with him, although he was terrible with money, would make an terrible father, meant dropping these hypothetical children I created. I loved every little thing but the current and really real him, and I didn’t realize this until years later. I felt like I had invested SO much time with him and that if I couldn’t persuade him to like me right, I couldn’t persuade anybody.
Admittedly, I get annoyed time and time again studying the identical post/title. “I love my husband but he beats me/ abuses me/doesn’t love me” and I’m just sitting here… what do you MEAN you’re eager on him? How is it not obvious that you simply love someone that doesn’t love you?